"The Son of Man has come eating and drinking, and you say, 'Look a glutton and a winebibber, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!"
Before you throw scriptural arrows at me, please hear me out, homosexuality is a sin according to the word of God, but the way in which we have handled our association with homosexuals is totally wrong! Jesus wouldn't have thrown rocks at them as many in the church have, He would have reached out to them with the love of God and offered them redemption.
We on the other hand have yelled and screamed and said they are going to Hell without trying to know and understand what they are going through. Most Gays don't choose their lifestyle and many are born effeminate without knowing that anything is wrong until someone makes fun or mocks them because they are different. Many more have been molested at a young age or have experienced deep emotional trauma or rape and have turned to someone for comfort, but instead were seduced giving ground to a spirit of perversion.
Many effeminate men are born into the lifestyle, the result of a generational curse that is moving down the bloodline because of the previous sins of the ancestors. It is no different with the "normal" Christian man, many are born with a spirit of lust that if not dealt with causes future addictions to immorality and pornography that in most cases remains in the same closet that hides the homosexual.
"Son of man, have you seen what the elders of the house of Israel do in the dark, every man in the room of his idols? For they say, The Lord does not see us, the Lord has forsaken the land." Ezekiel 8:12
I can't tell you the times I have dealt with the secret sins of men and women, many of whom were leaders in the church or heads of ministries with an idol hidden deep within their heart. Any time we allow something to remain in our heart: lust, perversion, lying, or any other secret sin it can turn into a stronghold that will eventually bring you down.
Ask Jimmy Swaggart, Ted Haggard, Jim Bakker or any other man of God that has hidden some secret sin and not admitted his fault, but rather let it grow until God finally allowed it to be exposed before everyone. My point being, don't judge the homosexual, until you judge yourself, and don't throw rocks at anyone lest they be thrown back at you!
One day our ministry visited a home for Gays with HIV and AIDS and we were given a tour by the director, himself also gay. We approached a man, very effeminate and when we were introduced as a Christian ministry he backed up and cried, "Are you going to cram a tract in my pocket," I said no, we came here to love you. That blew his mind and he hugged me and invited me to see his room and we became friends.
Understanding the dilemma that this group of people experience and the abuse that they are exposed to by Christians is without excuse, and a travesty. Jesus said, "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest." Except homosexuals? I don't think so! How can you reach someone that is scared to death of you, your church and your tactics?
Jesus hung out with sinners, healed them, loved them, taught them and fed them without judging them although He had every right to, being the Son of God. The religious crowd was always on Him about hanging out with sinners and not acknowledging their traditions and dead rituals. Instead He showed them the love of God by offering them the salvation that He was to provide by the shedding of His own blood.
It is appalling to me the way evangelicals act around sinners and anyone else they don't understand, take for instance the "Abortion" issue, the reason I got into residential ministry twenty five years ago. I joined up with Operation Rescue and hit the picket lines yelling and screaming with the rest of them when I realized that it was to no avail because it was scaring young women and they would leave the clinic that was being picketed and go down the street to the next clinic and get an abortion because no-one gave them an alternative.
Faith without works is deader than a hammer and religion without love stinks to high Heaven. It is high time the evangelical Christians get out of their comfort zone and spend some serious time fellow-shipping with sinners and befriending those that really need a Savior. Until you learn what is truly in a person's heart and begin to deal with the pain that they are experiencing you will never be able to reach those that you have deemed "unclean!"
How did you come to the Lord, by someone throwing rocks and abuse, or by someone telling you that Jesus loved you enough to die for you? Sure, people have been saved by "Hell, fire and brimstone preaching" but many more have been befriended by Christians and led to the Lord by them laying down their life. However you want to be treated, so treat others!
"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. 'For God did not send His Son to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved." John 3:16,17